So you’ve decided on a destination wedding – a dream wedding! Maybe it’s a vacation spot that means a lot to you or you just fancy a getaway location with the added bonus of a vacation. However, as with any wedding, but in particular one in a destination location, planning needs some reality checks. Here are some things to take into account:
Not everyone who you want to invite will be able to attend. They will be excited for you but this can be for a whole host of reasons and none that should be taken personally by you. There could be some financial reasons for their decline that they may not even want to tell you about. Not everyone gets ample vacation time either and may have used them up or want to use them in other ways, sometimes beyond their control. Or they could hate flying and not even have a passport. Also health issues could be at play for older members. This is not to put you off your dream of a destination wedding. Just keep in mind that it isn’t personal.
Entertaining the guests
You’re not the hostess with the mostest or in other words you are not the tour guide for your guests so don’t feel you have to plan their whole stay especially if they extend their vacation. This isn’t being selfish – you have a wedding to plan and a honeymoon to enjoy. Your guests will probably not want their vacation programmed either. They won’t feel obligated to participate in planned activities and you won’t have the stress of planning them!
When it comes to the resort and your contacts don’t panic if their responses take a while. Island life has its own pace and it isn’t bad customer service. Be patient and don’t be annoying. You don’t want to burn bridges with the people you will need when you’re on site.
The aim is to get what you want but don’t expect to get everything you want. Aim high but be realistic. Island resorts do not have access to many of the things you take for granted at home. Remember the real draw of a destination is to have that casual, vacation vibe so don’t be obsessive about details. Check to see that your schedule of events match the hours of the resort hair dresser, for example, or any restrictions due to noise laws meaning the DJ has a curfew. Go with the flow, relax, and enjoy your big day!